Read like a storybook . It is quote-d fom Richard Templar's .

This is about what to do when the person you love can't love you back . Suppose you just can't love the person you're with ? Sure , you like them , you enjoy their company , they make you laugh or they listen when you're upset or they share your interests . You wouldn't be with them if there wasn't a lot to like . But you know you'll never love them the way they love you .

You feel bad , of course - you're a caring person . You wish you could love them , and you don't want to hurt them . And maybe you'd be happy to keep hanging out with them anyway . Meaning , if there's no one else on the scene to go out with , and you want to go to the same places , and maybe the sex is good , and anyway you'd miss their family and their friends ... yes , it would be simplest to stay with them at least for now .

But thats not the answer . The longer you stay with this person , the more hoops they'll have to jump through ( trying to make you love them ) , the more they'll be hurt when you finally go ( and you will go in the end ) , and the more time they'll waste with the wrong person ( you ) .

You've got to be cruel to be kind and end the thing now . It's tough .
But if you care about this person , you'll feel dreadful hurting them , but remind yourself it would hurt more if you left it even longer . They deserve to be free to find someone who can love them in the way you can't .

If you don't really love this person , sooner or later you'll find someone you do fall head over heels in love with . Just suppose that person walks into your life tomorrow , or next week . Then what'll you do ?

There's no really satisfactory answer to that . You could get involved and really , really hurt your current partner . Or you could be hugely honourable and refuse to get involved , but that would be difficult and potentially devastating for both you and your new mystery lover . The only solution that actually works is for you to be free and single already when your new love interest arrives on the scene . And for that to happen , you need to disentangle yourself from your current partner now .

See ? The kindest thing for everyone is for you to be briefly cruel ,
but by doing so to leave everyone free to get on with their lives and make much more of themselves than they possibly can as things are right now . Your partner may not like or appreciate it at the moment but one day , if they have any sense , they'll look back and privately thank you for it .


* Leave everyone free ( if you can't love them , tell them ) to get on with their lives *

Labels: thanks to richard templar